Supergirl Star Melissa Benoist Opens Up About Past Abusive Relationship

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Our hearts go out to Melissa Benoist right now. The Supergirl actress recently opened up about a past abusive relationship on Instagram’s IGTV and the story she had to tell is very hard to listen to.

“I’m quite nervous so bare with me,” she started. “I am a survivor of domestic violence or IPV — intimate-partner violence — which is something I never in my life expected I would say, let alone be broadcasting into the ether. He was a magnanimous person who didn’t really give you a choice not to be drawn to him. He could be charming, funny, manipulative, devious. He was younger than me and his immaturity [was] obvious and for a period of time, I wasn’t interested. I was newly single and gaining my bearings after a period of change in my life making dumb decisions. But in the midst of that, he became a friend … Once we started dating, it was a zero to 60 catapult.”

“I wasn’t a rag doll letting myself be swept away into a relationship I didn’t want but I was unsure about what I was getting into from the get-go,” she continued. “I hadn’t figured out that I could say ‘no’ and disappoint someone and still be okay.”

“The abuse was not violence at first. At first, it reared its head at me under the guise of common dysfunction coming from his insecurity and depression… there was a lot of jealousy, he was snooping on devices… I had to change clothes often before we went out because he didn’t want people looking at me.”

She then delved into details about how it transitioned to physical violence. “It had to be secret for shame, for fear of more attacks, for reluctance to admit any of it was happening,” she explained. “The stark truth is I learned what it felt like to be pinned down and slapped repeatedly, punched so hard I felt the wind go out of me, dragged by my hair across pavement, head-butted, pinched until my skin broke, slammed against he wall so hard the drywall broke, choked.”

You can watch the full, heartbreaking video here:

Later, she posted on her Instagram feed that one in four women are survivors and posted the number 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) for people who may currently be in crisis in their relationships.

Many of Melissa’s fans have assumed that she is talking about her ex Blake Jenner based on the information Melissa provided.

Sadly, this is not the first time a celebrity has opened up about being abused in a romantic relationship. Sarah Hyland has spoken out about the abuse she endured from ex-boyfriend Matthew Prokop, as did One Tree Hill star Jana Kramer. It’s the bravery of these celebrities who make it easier for regular people to confide in trusted people if they’re experiencing something similar and create a more safe community. We love you, Melissa and we stand by you 100%.