Supergirl Star Melissa Benoist Opens Up About Past Abusive Relationship
Our hearts go out to Melissa Benoist right now. The Supergirl actress recently opened up about a past abusive relationship on Instagram’s IGTV and the story she had to tell is very hard to listen to.
“I’m quite nervous so bare with me,” she started. “I am a survivor of domestic violence or IPV — intimate-partner violence — which is something I never in my life expected I would say, let alone be broadcasting into the ether. He was a magnanimous person who didn’t really give you a choice not to be drawn to him. He could be charming, funny, manipulative, devious. He was younger than me and his immaturity [was] obvious and for a period of time, I wasn’t interested. I was newly single and gaining my bearings after a period of change in my life making dumb decisions. But in the midst of that, he became a friend … Once we started dating, it was a zero to 60 catapult.”
“I wasn’t a rag doll letting myself be swept away into a relationship I didn’t want but I was unsure about what I was getting into from the get-go,” she continued. “I hadn’t figured out that I could say ‘no’ and disappoint someone and still be okay.”
“The abuse was not violence at first. At first, it reared its head at me under the guise of common dysfunction coming from his insecurity and depression… there was a lot of jealousy, he was snooping on devices… I had to change clothes often before we went out because he didn’t want people looking at me.”
She then delved into details about how it transitioned to physical violence. “It had to be secret for shame, for fear of more attacks, for reluctance to admit any of it was happening,” she explained. “The stark truth is I learned what it felt like to be pinned down and slapped repeatedly, punched so hard I felt the wind go out of me, dragged by my hair across pavement, head-butted, pinched until my skin broke, slammed against he wall so hard the drywall broke, choked.”
You can watch the full, heartbreaking video here:
Later, she posted on her Instagram feed that one in four women are survivors and posted the number 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) for people who may currently be in crisis in their relationships.
Many of Melissa’s fans have assumed that she is talking about her ex
In her video Melissa Benoist specifically mentions this partner throwing a phone at her, damaging her eye and then making up a story she fell down the stairs and hit her face on a pot plant.
Going by the timeframe of the incident (according to Wiki at least), it was Blake Jenner pic.twitter.com/Zq239iUBol
— J.R. (@Straffo) November 27, 2019
it terrifies me how women learn since childhood to protect a man’s reputation over their own safety. Im glad that melissa benoist is free from blake jenner https://t.co/tgpCjp2etu
— mindy #SupercorpEndgame (@MindyTheDyke) November 27, 2019
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The long and winding road of healing and reconciliation has brought me to this moment where I feel strong enough to talk about my experience openly, honestly and without shame. By sharing my story, hopefully I can empower others to seek help and extricate themselves from abusive relationships. Everyone deserves to be loved void of violence, fear and physical harm. @futureswithoutviolence
Sadly, this is not the first time a celebrity has opened up about being abused in a romantic relationship. Sarah Hyland has spoken out about the abuse she endured from ex-boyfriend Matthew Prokop, as did One Tree Hill star Jana Kramer. It’s the bravery of these celebrities who make it easier for regular people to confide in trusted people if they’re experiencing something similar and create a more safe community. We love you, Melissa and we stand by you 100%.