The Bachelor franchise is know for it's shocking twists and turns. The romantic dating show has been our reality TV go-to since it first premiered 23 seasons ago! From Becca Kufrin and Arie Luyendyk Jr.'s painful taped breakup to Jason Mesnick telling Molly Malaney that he made a mistake on After The Final Rose, we've eagerly watched all the drama that Bachelor Nation could provide us. But some of the best moments in Bachelor history have taken place off-screen! We rounded up the 20 most shocking off-screen Bachelor moments just for you. Reader be warned, there is *so* much creepy DM-ing.
Rozlyn Papa was a contestant on the 14th season of The Bachelor with Jake Pavelka. Soon after filming began, Rozlyn and a producer were both asked to leave the show, due to what ABC termed an "inappropriate relationship" between the two. Rozlyn came back for The Women Tell All episode where she had it out with host Chris Harrison and denied that the relationship ever took place. She also accused Chris of flirting with another producer's wife. Ouch.
When Brad Womack chose Emily Maynard as his winner on the 15th season of The Bachelor, it seemed like they were set for a happily ever after. But like with most couples on the show, things were more complicated IRL than they were on TV. According to Emily's book, the couple broke up many times before they called it quits for good. Shockingly, the first time that Brad broke up with Emily, he didn't even both telling her. He just cc'ed her on an email he sent The Bachelor producers telling them that it didn't work out. Literally, WHAT.
Arie Luyendyk Jr. has quite the reputation on The Bachelor franchise. The first of Arie's signature antics began when he was dumped by Emily Maynard on The Bachelorette in 2012. Brokenhearted that Emily dumped him (and apparently lacking in coping skills) he became determined to win her back. Not only did he fly to her home in Charlotte, North Carolina, but he also sent her his journal after she refused to see him. Apparently, the journal was an intimate recounting of their relationship from Arie's perspective. The grand gesture didn't work though, and Arie went go on to star on the 22nd season of The Bachelor.
Night one of Nick Viall's season as the Bachelor was rocked by a revelation — he'd already hooked up with one of the contestants. Nick met Liz Sandos at the wedding of Bachelor alums Jade Roper and Tanner Tolbert. The two spent the night together but never spoke again. Nick looked shocked to see her step out of the limo, and expressed concerns about the fact that she hadn't tried to contact him before the show. Fans were also supicious of Liz's motives. Some deemed her camera hungry, and she went home early in the season.
In 2017, production suddenly shut down on the set of Bachelor spin-off Bachelor in Paradise. The reason for the shut down was a complaint about workplace misconduct registered after contestants DeMario Jackson and Corinne Olympios got drunk on free drinks and then got hot and heavy in the pool. Neither Corinne nor DeMario returned for the rest of the season, but both seemed to part on good terms. Footage of exactly what went down was never shown.
When Jenna Cooper and Jordan Kimball met and fell in love on season five of Bachelor in Paradise, it seemed like a match made in heaven. Both Jordan and Jenna were stand-outs on their respective seasons for being a little ... well, eccentric. On Paradise, the chemistry between them seemed instant and their proposal at the end of the season quickly brought tears to our eyes. Too bad it was marred by the news that Jenna had been allgedly faking the whole thing for publicity. Texts emerged that seemed to incdicate that Jenna had been cheating on Jordan. The couple split and we were never quite the same again.
Bekah Martinez quickly became a fan favorite on Arie's season of The Bachelor. Despite her young age (she was only 22 at the time!), Bekah made a name for herself with her quick wit and emotional intelligence. While the season aired, Bekah made news — not for her involvement in the show, but because she had been reported as a missing person! Apparently, after the show ended, Bekah and some friends went to the mountains for a couple days and lost cell phone reception. Bekah's mother got spooked when she didn't hear from her daughter and reported her missing. Weird.
Fans have accused Bachelor producers of poor vetting skills for years. This was readily apparent on Becca Kufrin's season of The Bachelorette when it came out that one of the contestants had actually been accused of indecent assault! Lincoln Adim appeared on the show even though he had a pending case for assault and battery. While the show aired he was convicted (which meant he became a registered sex offender). The show claimed that they had no knowledge of the incident because laws regarding background checks differ from state to state. Oh, Lincoln was also a flat-earther. So not great all-round.
Season 22 of The Bachelor really might have been "the most dramatic season ever." Despite choosing Becca Kufrin in the show's finale, Arie changed his mind. During what was supposed to be a romantic getaway while the season was still airing, Arie broke up with Becca *on camera.* He told her that he was still thinking about runner-up Lauren Burnham, who he eventually asked to get back together with him. What viewers didn't see on camera was the fact that Arie had slid into Lauren's DMs before he broke things off with Becca. It's shady at best, but since Arie and Lauren now have a daughter together, we guess we'll give it a pass.
Vanessa Grimaldi and Rachel Lindsay were both front runners in the fight for Nick Viall's heart on the 21st season of The Bachelor. Though they both liked Nick, they apparently didn't like each other. In an unaired confrontation, Vanessa allegedly called Rachel "aggressive" and "a bully." The conflict takes on another dimension when you consider the fact that the word 'aggressive' has traditionally been a way to vilanize African American women who express any sort of strong emotion. According to insider gossip, Vanessa was allegedly separated from Rachel for the rest of the show.
Dean Unglert won hearts on Rachel's season of The Bachelorette as a sweet and charming dude who was ultimately too young to fit into Rachel's life plan. But on Bachelor In Paradise, he proved us all wrong and revealed himself to be a majorly shady dude. After flirting with both Danielle Lombard and Kristina Schulman in Paradise, he ultimately chose Kristina. When the show finished taping, Dean slid into Danielle's DMs to blame their break-up on the producers. Too bad he was still chatting up Kristina, too! Dudes are the worst.
When Jared Haibon and Ashley Iaconetti finally got engaged, they did so in the most extra way possible ... on reality TV after a YouTube video dedicated to their relationship. We loved it. According to their "Story of Us" video, the couple has fellow Bachelor alum Tanner Tolbert to thank for getting together. After two seasons of Bachelor in Paradise and three years of friendship, Jared finally made a move on Ashley after Tanner prompted him to go get the girl. Seemingly endless seasons of Bachelor content and the best love story in the franchise takes place off-screen. Typical.
Before he appeared on her season of The Bachelorette, Nick Viall broke the show's protcol by texting Kaitlyn Bristowe. Nick says that he slid into Kaitlyn's DMs following her appearance on Chris Soules's season of The Bachelor. The two sparked a relatioship that was so heavy on the feels that Nick ended up joining the cast of her season part of the way through. While he made it to the top three, he was eliminated when Kaitlyn picked Shawn Booth. Kaitlyn and Shawn dated for three years.
Garrett Yrigoyen seemed like a decent, regular guy when he first appeared on Becca Kufrin's season of The Bachelorette. But eagle-eyed viewers quickly unearthed some less than decent 'likes' buried in the contestant's social media profiles. The posts that Garrett liked ranged from transphobic memes to accusations that Parkland shooting survivors were actually actors. While it's shocking that producers didn't catch this before Garrett went on the show, what's even more surprising is the fact that the woman he was supposed to be wooing publicly supported Hilary Clinton and attended the Women's March. Garrett won Becca's season and the two are still together!
Okay, so we never really expected this one do go down on screen. The Bachelor seemed obsessed with the idea of Colton Underwood's virginity and wouldn't let us forget the fact that this man had never been laid for a single second. So, you can understand our frustration that no one has ever told us if Colton has done the deed yet. Again, it's not really our buisness, but the man did build an entire reality TV brand out of it ... so who's to say really.
We were rooting for you, Jed! We were all rooting for you! Aspiring country singer Jed Wyatt immediately became a front runner on Hannah Brown's season of The Bachelorette. But as soon as Jed won the audience's hearts, he crushed them. While the show was airing, it was revealed that Jed had a serious girlfriend who he simply stop talking to when he went on the show. Allegedly, Jed told his girlfriend that he was going on the show to boost his profile as a singer-songwriter. Jed's good boy reputation was crushed as he became the literal personification of "not here for the right reasons."
As part of an epic clapback to The Bachelorette contestant Luke Parker's attempts to shame her for having sex, Hannah B. soundly told the contestant off for his misogynistic and outdated views on sexuality. She then told him that she had indeed had sex with another contestant in a windmill, *twice.* The revelation, which first aired in a promo, sent fans scowering to find windmills in the background of all of Hannah's dates. To top things off, Hannah informed Luke that having sex doesn't mean Jesus loves her any less. We stan.
After he wrapped on Becca Kufrin's season of The Bachelorette, fellow Bachelor alum Bekah Martinez accused Leo Dottavio of sexually harassing women on social media. Bekah took to her Instagram Stories to share screenshots of conversations Leo allegedly had with Bachelor fans. The conversations were sexual and aggressive. Bekah claimed that 12 women had come forward with stories about Leo. For his part, Leo denied the allegations but did say that he has never claimed to be a perfect person. The bar isn't perfection, Leo. It's non-creepiness.
The Bachelorette contestant Tyler Gwozdz barely made it on the show before he abruptly left for undisclosed reasons. The show briefly addressed his off-script departure and then moved on. Understandably, the internet had some questions. According to Reality Steve, the go-to source for all things Bachelor, Tyler was actually asked to leave due to something in his past. The internet hive-mind eventually tracked down a Reddit post from an anonymous account that alleged that Tyler didn't have the best track record with women. Tyler has shot down these accusations.
Matt D. didn't even make it onto The Bachelorette before the internet exposed his shady past. Poor (or creepy?) Matt was announced as part of the cast that was vying for Hannah B's heart, but he never filmed an episode. Twitter user @SamSmithburger came forward with screenshots of a series of extremely creepy DMs from the would-be reality TV star. In the screenshots, it appears as if Matt sent Sam messages over the course of *months* despite the fact that she clearly wasn't interested. Like seriously, dude. Take a hint.