Rory Gilmore was the introverted protagonist that practically every bookworm could relate to. Whether she was sniffing books at the library, struggling to talk to a cute guy or pigging out on leftover Chinese, Rory always had a way of making us feel more comfortable in our own skin. But if you've recently re-watched the episodes (especially the later seasons) and tuned in to Gilmore Girls: A Year In The Life, chances are you started to see her a bit differently. Maybe you paid more attention to her inconsiderate comments and how disrespectful she was to her mom. Or maybe some of her decisions that didn't seem like that big of a deal at first made you cringe the second time around.
It sucks to admit, but Rory's intelligence and adorable quirks made a lot of us overlook the fact that she was rather selfish, hypocritical, and irresponsible. And to be quite honest, we're starting to think that she was just a terrible person all along. If you think we're being too dramatic, take a look at all the times Rory was the worst and then get back to us:
At the last minute (and on the day of her mom's graduation), Rory decided to skip school and spend the day with her "friend" in New York, and it was all because of one late-night phone call. Jess essentially took off and left her hanging after they got into an accident. But still, Rory thought it would be a good idea to travel several miles to go see him, rather than stay and support her mom. In the end, she wound up missing the entire ceremony, even though Lorelai was quite clear about wanting her daughter to be there for her. Not cool, Rory.
Well, it's no wonder why Luke warned Rory to not go to Dean's wedding. After all that time, he still hadn't gotten over her, and even after his marriage to Lindsay, it became quite clear that those feelings never left for Rory, either. What started as an attempt to rekindle a "friendship" quickly turned into something more and Rory lost her virginity to him - even though he was married. To make matters even worse, when she broke this news to her mom and saw her get upset, she acted like she did nothing wrong and claimed that Dean was hers forever because he was hers first. She also made her mom out to be the crazy one for making a big deal out of it, then pointed out how Lorelai once slept with a guy who was engaged (because of course, that totally justified her actions).
In the Netflix revival, we basically saw history repeat itself. While staying at his flat in London, Rory started a sort of "friends with benefits" relationship with her ex, Logan. While he was engaged to a French girl named Odette. In this case, though, Rory had no intention of stealing him away from his wife-to-be. She also had a boyfriend! They ended things rather quickly, but then Rory found out that she was pregnant with a child that just could be his... Yikes.
During her affair with Logan, Rory had a boyfriend named Paul, who she was dating for over two years (so on top of sleeping with an engaged guy, she was cheating on her partner). The craziest part, though, was how she claimed that she meant to dump him, but just never got around to doing it. For over TWO YEARS. Like, who forgets to dump a person for that long??? She basically never mentioned him unless he was with her, and even despite his efforts to please her, it was clear that she genuinely wasn't that into him. Poor Paul deserved so much better.
At first, we chalked it up to the fact that she still had feelings for Dean and she felt a bit conflicted. But in retrospect, Rory was just in denial about her feelings for Jess. She had clearly lost all interest in Dean and possibly stayed to avoid hurting his feelings. But though Dean wasn't exactly the best boyfriend to Rory, she should've had the decency to at least be honest with him. She knew how tense and awkward things were between him and Jess, and she saw how it was making him feel paranoid and worried. But still, she ignored it and tried to pretend that everything was fine.
If you need proof of the fact that Rory failed to acknowledge how privileged she is, then this ought to do the trick. She had the opportunity to choose between multiple Ivy League schools and didn't have to worry about paying her own tuition because of her grandparents. And there's nothing wrong with that! But she knew that not everyone (including Dean) had loaded relatives who were willing to pay for college expenses. And Dean explained quite clearly that he had no interest in going to begin with. But still, Rory looked down on him for this and made him feel like going to college was the only possible way he could succeed.
So eventually, Dean agreed to go to a four-year college because Rory encouraged him to. But when Dean broke the news that he'd be taking a few semesters off to make some more money, Rory freaked out and tried to make him feel like he was making the biggest mistake of his life. It got so ridiculous that Dean had to reason with her by reminding her that he was a married man with expenses and responsibilities. But of course, Rory dismissed this and repeated that working full time was a "really bad idea." Also, for the gazillionth time, she encouraged him to just "go to school" because apparently, she knew what was best for him. It's also ironic because of some of her later decisions.
We get that Rory was caught off-guard because she didn't have the time to prepare or dress appropriately. But did she really have to blow up at her grandfather and act like he did the worst thing in the world? The least she could have done was be grateful for her grandfather's efforts because students would kill for that kind of opportunity. Instead, both her and her mom treated the poor guy like he destroyed Rory's entire life, even though he actually offered her the opportunity of a lifetime.
As if hearing her and her mom exchange insults about the dancers during the ballet wasn't bad enough, Rory published the most disrespectful review and went as far as suggesting that one ballerina looked like a hippo. The dancer, whose name was Sandra, went to Rory to voice her concerns about it, but Rory had the nerve to argue that it was in her "line of duty" and "nothing personal." When Sandra complained about the name-calling, Rory claimed that comparing her to a hippo was different from calling her a hippo (as if that makes things any better!), then said that it was supposed to be a funny comparison. If you ask us, Rory totally deserved to get told-off for this.
When she returned to school for her second year at Yale, she complained that her colleagues had "amazing, productive summers … and me, the person who’s been talking about being a journalist her entire life, what did I do? I wasted two whole months running away to Europe." At first, we found it kind of odd that Rory never considered a summer job or internship. But then we remembered that for Rory, money is no object. Instead of owning up to the fact that her privilege afforded her such a lavish vacay, she chose to complain about her bad decisions to anyone who would listen.
When Lorelai found out about Luke's daughter (April) and her mom, she specifically told Rory to not go see her. But what did Rory do? Go against her mom's wishes and spy on Anna anyway. And when Lorelai finally found out, Rory acted all surprised as if her mom had no right to be so upset over something that she clearly asked her not to do.
Okay so to be fair, Mitchum completely disrespected and humiliated Rory by telling her that she didn't have what it takes to be a journalist. He could've said something along the lines of "you made a good effort, but maybe apply yourself more" or "consider experimenting with different areas in journalism." But while we do understand how hurtful his comments were, that didn't justify Rory's impulsive reaction. She could've called up her mom to try and talk it through or let her emotions out with a tub of ice cream, but... stealing a yacht with your boyfriend?! Why go as far as committing a crime?
Stealing a boat wasn't the only drastic decision she made as a result of Mitchum's comments. In fact, she decided to just quit school altogether and give it a go at prepping to become a trophy wife - just like Logan's parents wanted. It wasn't that she was taking a semester off or moving on from journalism to explore different fields but just quit. After all her grandfather went through to get her there, and after her grandparents spent all that money to take care of school costs, she decided that one man's negative opinion was enough of a sign that she didn't belong in college at all. Considering how she turned out in the reboot, perhaps there was some truth to Mitchum's statement. But still, completely throwing in the towel when you have the opportunity to pursue any major you want at an Ivy League school? That seems a bit over the top, don't you think?
Remember when Rory had that fight with her mom about wanting to take a break from Yale? Well, even though her mom insisted that she stick it out, Rory started avoiding her mom. Amd when Lorelai mentioned that moving back in with her was "out of the question," Rory went behind her back and moved in with her grandparents... That's just one example of roughly a hundred. We get going through a rough time, but don't turn your back on the people who have always been there for you just because the going got tough.
In the earlier seasons, we admired Rory's dedication and work ethic. We loved that she consistently applied herself and did so well in school. But if you really think about it, much of what she accomplished (especially after high school) was because of her privilege. Her wealthy grandparents handed over college funds, work opportunities and a place to stay on a silver platter, and since these things came so easily for her, she started to feel entitled to things without having to work as hard for them. For instance, take her interview at Sandee Says. Rory was so confident that she'd land the job that she showed up with zero ideas and no enthusiasm for the role. Then, when she didn't get it, she got mad and blamed Sandee for "getting her hopes up for a job she didn't even want." Um... Okay.
Throughout the original show, Lorelai was pretty supportive of almost everything that Rory did, including most of Rory's more questionable decisions. But on the revival, when she got pushback from Lorelai about her book, she completely freaked out. Lorelai simply wanted Rory to avoid including personal details from her past because wasn't comfortable with the idea of letting the entire world know such intimate details. But rather than trying to be considerate and see where her mom was coming from, she made her feel guilty for feeling the way she did. Since Rory was so hell-bent on putting both of their personal lives on display for her new book, Lorelai eventually gave in and agreed to it.
In the Netflix reboot, Lorelai and Rory thought it would be amusing to poke fun at literally every fat person who came into their line of sight while they hung out at the pool. Lorelai said "bikini alert" when an overweight guy walked past and Rory responded "holy moly." But then, when a bigger man in a speedo stopped by to welcome them, they took it upon themselves to nickname him "Back Fat Pat." In that scene, they were visibly disgusted by that guy's body and eager for him to go away. Everything about it was just so disrespectful and cruel.