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Dealing With Clinginess
Part of the fear of having the conversation with your partner about a longer-term relationship could stem from the worry that you’ll come off as clingy. “Clinginess is usually the manifestation of anxiety about fear of abandonment, real or imagined,” explains Newman. “If you’re feeling a tendency towards ‘clingy’ behavior, it’s often because you’re afraid that someone or something is slipping away, so we double down on trying to connect.”
If this is the case, she suggests analyzing what is going on between you and your partner. See if there’s a more adaptive solution than ‘clingy’ behavior; perhaps addressing the conflict or distance would be more productive than trying to pull them closer artificially.” Not sure if you’re being clingy or not? There are some signs.